But It Works In The Movies!

A few years ago I wrote a post on another site about this phenomena.  How women seem to have gotten a distorted view of what relationships should be like, based on the subject at hand.  I've revamped it for over here.

Why?  Because it is a public service.  Women, you have to realize that just because you feel a connection with someone, it doesn't mean they feel the connection.  It doesn't mean they can read your thoughts.  It doesn't mean they want you.  It can be a one way connection very easily.  You feel it, why doesn't he?  It's like calling and getting his voice mail.  The connection is only open on one side.

But there is certain behavior that I can't believe some of you still pull, based on all of this, which I consider porn for women.  So that is where the following comes in.

In your standard porn movie, or at least what has come to be classified as pornography, women seem to have been reduced to a set of holes.  At least, on the surface.  When it comes to the exploitation of women, these women are being paid very well in most cases and this is one industry where women are going to make more money than men and have more power in the creative process.  However, when it comes down to it, it is the men who are truly exploited.  There are men who believe what they see in these videos could happen to them.  Men who think this is really what women want. They're actually confused when they discover this isn't how to treat a woman. Those with half a brain who aren't taken away by the fantasy will learn. The rest, well, they're going to spend the rest of their lives wondering why women refuse to go to bed with them more than once and why about half of them tell them that if they plan on doing that again, they'd better be ready to leave money on the night stand.

Now, try to tell a woman that XXX pornography is how sex should be and you will get an earful on what's wrong with what's on the screen.  We tell the men we know who get really deep into the entire fantasy to not give up their day jobs to deliver pizza, as what happens to the pizza guys in the movies will never happen to them.  These men have become exploited and the true believers of porn fans will never have a decent relationship in their lives.

What really exploits women is what I consider pornography in its most basic term.  Something obscene that subverts.  Yet pornography for women is something that has been around since before those porn theaters that used to line Times Square.  It's been around for many years.  It gives women unreal expectations of men, sex and love.  It is subversive and in my opinion, it should be banned.  But it's available in bookstores and video stores without having to go to a dark corner.  It's out there for all the world to see.  Where children can see it!  The movies are big budget and get lots of TV advertising and can be rated as low as PG, in spite of the filth contained within.

It's something so bad, so evil, it harms every man the woman who believes in this ever dates.  After dealing with one of the addicts of this particular kind of porn, a man is damaged and in most cases, scared of women.  He becomes a standard porn addict, as it's a lot safer.  It effects her friends too, as they have to listen to the ranting.  The latest reviews.  Get dragged off to see the latest porn flick with her, because only losers go to the movies alone.  Or they're expected to read the latest porn novel she's read, so they can have a book club type discussion about it, in between her whining about how yet another man got away, or turned out not to meet her porn standards.

I am of course, talking about romance novels and chick flicks.

I consider those things to be pornography, in one of its most subversive forms.  Let's face it. Women who are hooked on that form of entertainment will never be happy with any man.  They expect the men they meet to be Cary Grant, Rock Hudson, Brad Pitt, and Leonardo DiCaprio rolled into a package that looks like Johnny Depp.  Yes, just as the XXX porn addict will never find a sexual partner that will measure up to what he sees in the movies, the porn for women addict will never find a man who measures up herself. And both wonder why.

Chick flicks and romance novels follow a basic premise.  Boy meets girl.  Girl rebuffs boy.  Girl lets boy chase her until she catches him.  Boy loses head over girl and will spend a year's salary in one night to make her happy.  Some form of adversity drives them apart.  She tells him she never wants to see him again. They both mope around. Chicks watching or reading start crying.  Boy goes to the ends of the earth to make girl understand how much he loves her.  Boy and girl reunite and live happily ever after.

Ladies, this doesn't happen in real life.  Tell a guy that you don't want to see him again and what happens?  He goes away.  If he doesn't, you end up having him arrested for stalking and telling all your friends what a creep and loser he turned out to be.

The women who are addicted to this form of entertainment do truly psychotic things.  Mind you, the man they finally fall for can't be any schlub off the street.  He has to be special.  He has to wear expensive clothes.  He has to make six figures a year at the very least.  He has to take them to the right restaurants, the right concerts, send them the right flowers at work to make all the other women in the office jealous.  He has to have the right car.  No used Toyota driver for these women.  He also has to have an air of mystery to help fuel her paranoid belief that he's cheating on her.  She has to put him through little tests of his devotion to her.

When I say little tests, I mean complete and total mind fucks.  If he says he's going to be home all night, he doesn't feel like going out, he's going to just watch the game on his glorious wide-screen TV, he had better not be in the bathroom, or fallen asleep on the couch, or on the other line talking to his mother when she calls to hang up.  She has to make sure he's not lying to her, you see.  To make sure he's not in bed with another woman.

She will expect him to have a mind like a steel trap.  To remember something inconsequential that she mentioned in passing one day.  To remember everything she tells him for that matter.  Even if he was asleep when she told him this . Why?  Because it happens in romance novels and in chick flicks.  Besides,he's going to be expected to stock his bathroom with her favorite shampoo, conditioner, soaps and tampons if he doesn't want her to sulk.

He had better remember their one month anniversary, the anniversary of the day he first gave her flowers, her birthday, the birthdays of everyone in her family, her cat's birthday. … You get the picture.  The man who hooks up with a woman like this had damned well better have a secretary with good Outlook skills.  Better yet, he should just add everyone she knows to his Facebook, so he can get the birthday warnings a few days in advance.

In addition to the mind like a steel trap, he had also better be a mind reader.  He's supposed to be like the guys in the books and movies and know what she needs instinctively.  If she has a flat tire 200 miles away in a dead cell area at 3 AM, his spidey senses are supposed to start tingling and he's supposed to send out the tow truck to help her.  If she's having a craving, he'd better figure out what it is before she arrives at his place, so he can have it stocked.  If she's waiting by the phone, he's supposed to know this and call her just to tell her he's thinking about her.  Even if he's in the middle of the most important business meeting of his life.  He's supposed to do all of this without the aid of private detectives, bugs planted all over her car, home and office, or using necromancy.  Because if she finds out that he's not that instinctive, she's going to have a hissy fit and spend the night telling him everything that is wrong with him.

Any old girlfriends or ex-wives of his had best be dead, it's even better if it was in some tragic accident.  That way, she can give him lots of sympathy for what he's gone though, I mean, that's just so romantic that he tried to get to the ex, but the car exploded.  Not to mention, it cuts down on competition.  Women addicted to this form of porn tend to be needy and insecure.  I almost forgot to mention:  Extra points if he's still mourning his loss, as it means SHE is the one he's chosen to help him forget.  SHE has the power to make him forget and fall in love with her.  Tragedy is romantic to the chick flick addict.  They also find his brooding sexy.

So, her favorite band is going to be in town, tickets go on sale tomorrow and they've been dating two weeks.  Why isn't he camped out in front of box office to make sure he get first row floor center sets for her?  He's already a bad boyfriend if he doesn't.

He has to surprise this woman with gifts for no reason. So she can bask in how perfect they are as a couple.  He needs to make a ton of money if he wants to keep this woman happy. Don't forget, gifts are to be delivered to her office, so she can make everyone ever so jealous about what a wonderful boyfriend she has. This adds to her sense of self importance. Which is the most important thing in her life.

He needs to get ready to give up his friends, if he still has any after they meet her.  The porn for women addict tends to be on the toxic side.  She can suck the life out of all who come within 50 feet of her.  She will exhaust you mentally and emotionally.  Did I mention she's needy and insecure to a fault?  He will start to wonder if she's a succubus at some point down the line.

Don't think he can have quiet nights at home with this one. She wants to be taken to the best bars, restaurants and clubs in town. She doesn't just want to be seen, but she wants to show off her newest property. In a word, him. Besides, while his friends don't matter, hers do. And they will want to check him out and tell her if he's right for her.  If you are this man, pray her friends don't like you.

He will give up any and all rights to privacy. However, he'd damned well better respect hers. 

When she breaks up with him every other week to test his devotion, he is expected to follow her out the door, screaming her name. He will need to tell his boss that he can't come into work because she's taken off for the Bahamas and he has to chase after her and get her to take him back. Better yet, he should be the boss and have a glamorous career. One right out of the movies. Yes, her fantasy becomes his reality. Not to mention, stalking shows he cares. That is, if she isn't serious about breaking up this time. Chances are, she's not.

But then, there are the cases where she is.  So if he repeats the behavior she has wanted in the past, begging her to come back to him, she will slap him with a restraining order if he does it this time, because she's serious this time.

But these women can't understand why after they've broken up with him for the 50th time, this time he's not following her out the door.  What do you mean, you're letting me go this time?  If you truly loved me, you would put up with this inappropriate behavior.  Right?

In 8 out of 10 cases, this is where she starts to stalk you. Be scared. Be very scared.

Let's say they make it to the altar.  He is enough of a masochist that he finds her behavior charming.  Then what happens?

Basically, the romance novel and the chick flick end before the happy couple settles into a routine. No one wants to see the boring stuff, like them fighting over whose turn it is to change the litter box, why one of them didn't use a coaster, whose turn it is to do the dishes. It doesn't show them settling down to a life in suburbia with the dog in the yard and the minivan waiting to be filled with children in the driveway. It doesn't show them renting Disney movies on Saturday night instead of painting the town red. It doesn't show the bills rolling in.  If he's behaved the way he's supposed to during the courtship, the credit card bills will be massive. We never see the growing mound of dirty laundry, as they’'re both working until all hours, getting home at midnight and then starting all over again at 6 AM.   We don't see Saturday mornings being a whirlwind of soccer practice and ballet lessons for the kids.  Real life isn'’t shown. Just the thrill of the chase.

Just as standard porn doesn't show the horny chick showing up at Domino’s nine months later with a baby in her arms, with her screaming how she’s suing for child support, porn for women doesn't show what comes after either. Which is why it’s dangerous. Women who are addicted to this form of pornography are never happy with a man after a few months. It settles down into the routine and they want the excitement.

The chick flick/romance novel addict is one to be avoided at all costs, if you're a man. Unless you enjoy mind fucks and being miserable all the time.  If you're a woman and you believe that this is how relationships are supposed to be, you are never going to be happy in a relationship.  The man isn't supposed to make you feel complete.  For a good relationship, you need to be a complete person to begin with.  You also have to realize that the man is a living, breathing human being with thoughts and feelings of his own.  Otherwise, you are going to live in your little bubble, wondering why what happens in the movies never happens to you.

Trick or Treat, smell my feet, give Pat Robertson some Risperidone to eat!

I have decided that I hope Pat Robertson never dies.  He is such a fountain of insane misinformation.  He is so good for material.  Take for instance his recent comments on Halloween.





Let that sink in for a few seconds.  Go ahead, watch it again.  This time, just try to make sense out of his insane logic.  Just try to wrap your head around it.  I dare you.  It's the same kind of logic Christian schools use, when they have a harvest festival instead of a Halloween party.  Because Halloween is pagan and a harvest festival is Christian.

I'm not even sure where to start with this video.  Let's start with this woman 's email.  Yes, she is spoiling the fun for her kids.  Her family is right.  I wonder about the family dynamics.  It appears she is "saved," but her family isn't.  That must make for some fun at the dinner table on holidays.

But good old Patty Cakes.  He is psychotic right out of the box.  Halloween is a festival for demonic spirits and trick or treating started with Druids killing sheep?  Goblins are real? Jack-O-Lanterns are demonic and Druid?  Halloween is given over to Satanic things and should be turned into a Christian festival?  It makes me wonder just what medications his doctor has him taking.

I Googled like mad trying to find some reference to Druids killing sheep and extorting money.  Using those terms, I got lots of hits.  For World of Warcraft, Warcraft III, Runescape, and a few other video games.  Yes, I could only find references to that in video games, as far as Druids went.  Now, I did find that on Saint Martin's Day, it was customary in Ireland to sacrifice a sheep if you could afford it, or a rooster if you were a peasant. Saint Martin's Day is November 11, which is close enough to Halloween that it could confuse old Pat.  I'm actually astounded that he didn't try to convince his viewers that the sheep in question was a human.  You know, part of Jesus's flock.

The fact is, Druids were the educated class.  Some were priests, but most were doctors, lawyers, writers, etc.  I can't imagine the village doctor knocking on your door and insisting you give him a treat, or he's going to kill your livestock.  As far as the lawyers went, well, I will refrain from lawyer jokes.  But Robertson is making the Druids out to be some sort of early Mafia.

As far as Halloween being a festival for demonic spirits, I can almost see where he got that idea.  The door to the Otherworld was considered to be open on Samhain, the Celtic name for Halloween. The veil between the living and the dead is considered to be at it's thinnest. Modern pagans celebrate it as the pagan new year, based on the works of Sir John Rhys and James Frazer.  But it has become a Christian holiday.

The Church actually changed the dates of All Saints Day and All Souls Day to correspond with the festivities of Samhain.  Samhain became All Hallow's Eve, or as we call it, Halloween.  All Saint's Day was also known as Hallowmas.  So the word Halloween in itself is of Christian origin.  It is an abbreviation.  There is nothing Satanic about it.  Except in the minds of those with evil imaginations and on the covers of heavy metal albums.  And horror movies.  How could I forget horror movies?

Yes, it does correspond with traditional days to honor the dead.  It's not just Spanish countries that practice a Day of the Dead.  A good portion of European Catholics visit graves and light candles for the dead at this time of year.

As far as trick or treating is concerned, there is a very Christian custom to go with that. Children would go from house to house on All Soul's Day and offer prayers and songs for the dead in return for soul cakes.  It was believed that for every cake eaten, a soul was released from Purgatory.  That custom is still around in Portugal, although they do it on All Saint's Day and they don't say, "trick or treat," when they knock on doors.  They say, "Pão-por-Deus," which means, "bread for God."  And yes, while they do get candy on that day, the traditional treat is an anise flavored cake. How much more Christian can you get?

Then there are costumes and masks.  That is also rooted in Christianity.  The idea was for costumes to be frightful, so the spirits of the dead would become confused, think you were dead and not come for you.  Or something along those lines.  Basically, the idea was to confuse the spirits of the dead, who were thought to be out roaming the land, looking for the living.  So costumes and especially masks would shield you from the dead recognizing you.  And if Pat Robertson is someone who believes all ghosts are demons, then he really should be endorsing the wearing of costumes and masks.  Because then, the demons can't get you.  Right?  That would be logical?  It would even give him an excuse to rant about slutty nun costumes and how women need to start dressing scary on Halloween.  Right? Not in his demented mind.  In his mind, costumes are Satanic.

So...  Goblins.  Really Pat?  Goblins?  Goblins weren't even invented until the 12th Century and had nothing at all to do with Druids.  Next!

Jack-O-Lanterns are a bit harder.  Their origins are lost in antiquity.  The origins of the phrase doesn't even date back all that far.  The use of them as decorations at Halloween doesn't even date back past the 19th century.  They were originally lanterns made from turnips.  Pumpkins were adopted when the Irish brought the custom to the United States, as they were far more plentiful than turnips.  Irish folklorists over the years have made no mention of them as a part of a folk tradition.  From what I can tell, they were popularized as Halloween props by Washington Irving, in "The Legend of Sleepy Hollow."  So, the use of carved, lit up gourds at Halloween does appear to be a modern custom, with nothing Satanic about it.

So, what have we learned today?  Pat Robertson is way off base with Halloween being Satanic, demonic or anything of the sort.  It is a holiday that is rooted deeply in Christian tradition.  So, let your kids go get candy from the neighbors and don't worry that they're going to start worshiping Satan.  If you must, remind them that if they were born a few hundred years ago, they'd have to offer prayers and songs for dead people they had never met.  So just saying, "trick or treat," means they're getting off light.  Just remember to check their candy, because while poisoned candy is a myth, pins and needles and bricks of marijuana in Snickers wrappers aren't, even if they are incredibly rare.

The Lights Are On, But No One Is Home

You two broke up about a month ago.  You can't believe the connection that you still feel.  So you drive over there.  Look, his car is in the driveway and the lights are on.  You're just going to sit and wait a while, to work up the courage to knock on the door.  Or, since this is garbage night, maybe you can get a glimpse of him wheeling the garbage to the curb.  Then you can surprise attack and he can't pretend to not be home.

You know he's in there.  You can feel him in there.  Why isn't he coming outside?  He hasn't taken the garbage to the curb yet.  It must be because he can feel you outside and he doesn't want to talk right now.  That's alright, he will come around.  The connection is that strong.

So you wait.  And you wait some more.  You know he's in there.  You see lights starting to go out.  You look at your phone and see that it is his normal bedtime.  You have to go home, you have work in the morning.  You hope he doesn't hear you starting your car.  You drive off and figure that you will get here earlier tomorrow.  You want to see him.  You get out of work earlier than he does.  So you can sit and ambush him when he's getting out of his car.

You arrive the next day.  What is going on?  His car is already there.  As it starts to get dark, the lights start to turn on.  You try to get a glimpse of him walking by the window.  But you never see him.  You sneak around to the back and try to see him cooking dinner.  You wonder if he's hurt or something.  You don't smell him cooking and he is a magnificent chef.  His cooking is almost as good as his talents in bed.  But it's getting cold.  So you return to the car.

And you wait.  And you wait some more.  And one by one, the lights go out.  You go home.

This goes on for two weeks.  How can he be ignoring this connection?  You know he's in there.  But he is managing to avoid you.  Can't he feel you out here, the way you can feel him in there?  You know he can feel the pain he's causing you.  How can he be so sadistic?  Doesn't he love you?  You know he can feel you.

Then one night you see a cab pull into his driveway.  You sink down into the bushes, so the headlights don't hit you.  You see him get out of the cab.  The driver comes around and helps him get luggage from the trunk.  He's been on vacation all this time, hiking the Great Wall of China.  That's right.  You were supposed to go with him.  At least you had decided that.  So what that you don't have a passport and he never bought you a ticket?  He was supposed to surprise you at the last minute, instead of breaking up with you.

But how dare he take that vacation alone?  So what it was planned a year in advance and long before you met him.  That was supposed to be your big couples trip!  You feel more betrayed than if you had seen him with another woman.

How dare he put all his lights on a timer, to scare thieves away?  If you had known that he wasn't there, you could have broken in and taken a token to remember him by.  A shirt from his dirty laundry that smells like him.  Anything.  So you can continue to feel him.

But how did you feel him so strongly in there?  You write it off to the fact all his stuff is in there.  Because otherwise, you would have to admit the truth.

When our love for someone is so clingy and needy that it turns from love to obsession with the person, we are convinced that they can feel us, the way we feel them.  But what is really going on?  How can you feel someone who isn't there?

The fact is simple.  The connection isn't there.  That connected feeling you have is actually your obsession with the other person.  They are feeling nothing of the sort.  I like to compare it to trying to call someone who doesn't answer.  You're connected, but they're not.  But the fact that you feel things that aren't there is a sign that you need to get over it.

Really.  It's over.  Deal with it.  You just felt him home for two weeks, while he was on vacation in Asia.  You honestly thought he would cancel the trip and mope around the house at the thought of losing you, instead of getting on with his life.  So now you're even more upset and feel more betrayed.

That connection you feel is all you.  It is in your imagination.  It doesn't exist.  You are going to have to work to get past it.

There is no crime in going to therapy to get past a situation like this.  Especially if it's not the first time.  You need to work on how you don't love, but obsess.  Obsession isn't love.  Obsessions can turn dangerous.  Look at you, spending two weeks of your life that you will never have back stalking an empty house.  It is time to move on.  If you refuse to move on, seriously consider therapy.  If you continue to behave like this, every relationship is going to end in disaster.  Unless of course, you meet someone as needy and clingy and obsessive as you are.  Then you're going to be in a very scary relationship.

Break-ups hurt.  But there is always a reason for a break-up.  So move on and find someone who will share a real connection with you, instead of just feeling that he must love you because the sex is so great.  But move on and lose that connection.

Haunting Memories

I've been watching those paranormal shows on Netflix.  Right now, I'm watching one that was on Animal Planet.  All three seasons are on Netflix.  I won't name the show.  In spite of the fact in some cases, I just feel that people are scaring themselves into believing a building is haunted, there are a few where I believe they were haunted.  But a few I wonder about.  So far, two shows have taken place in the area where I grew up.  The one house, as soon as I heard the name of the original family that lived there, I knew exactly where it was.  My old neighbor's ex-wife grew up there.  It was never haunted when she was growing up.  But, it was also a kind of lame story to begin with.  But all of this is beside the point.  I've been learning a few things I never knew watching this show!  Such as...

• Poltergeists prefer young girls to young boys.

I don't know what it is about activity they deem to be poltergeist, but in these shows, it tends to affect houses with daughters more than with sons.  It seems like the ghosts that haunt where boys live tend to be more normal ghosts.  Unless of course, they insist it sounds like a demon before even investigating.  I don't know if the network told them that they needed so many types of hauntings per season, or they had to use certain consultants so many times per season.  But most of the shows had to do with them determining what guest expert needed to come in before they even got there.

• Some adults have never gotten over their childhood fears of dark basements.
• Speaking of basements, hairy spiders in your basement are a sign of ghosts.  (If the cameraman is to be believed.)

Basements.  Most in these shows are unfinished.  Unfinished basements tend to be plot points in a lot of horror movies.  And let's face it.  In certain areas, you are going to find various creepy crawlies in dark, damp basements.  If you've ever lived with a basement, you know what I mean.  Every basement in this show is unfinished.  You never see a finished basement being haunted.  Just the unfinished, which might not even have adequate lighting.  I understand the fear of the basement.  Big spiders are down there, waiting to jump from behind the washer or dryer and run across your feet.  If you live in a flood plain, it's going to flood.  You might need sump pumps running down there.

But as you grow up, you get over the fear.  Well, if you don't grow up with a bunch of unaddressed neuroses about it.  Generally, your parents help you get over the fear.  Unless they're scared of it too.  

• A vixen in heat shrieking in the woods is a sign of an evil spirit, not mating season.

This show is on Animal Planet.  So you would think that somewhere along the line, someone in the chain of command would know we were listening to a vixen.  Was the idea to scare people who have never been out of their cities?  Something like this makes everything else less credible.  It gives the impression of, "well, nothing to see here, wait, let's record wild animals looking for sex, pretend to be freaked and call it a day."

• Nocturnal emissions are a myth made up by big, bad scientists and doctors.  You are really under attack from a succubus.  
• Sleep paralysis and night terrors are really demonic attacks.

Science and medicine be damned!  We are headed right back to the 15th century.  Did these experts all drop out of high school before they got to basic biology?  Were they all sent to Fundamentalist Christian schools or home schooled by someone who considered science to be of the devil?  Or are they all just batshit crazy, seeing demons in every shadow?  It makes me wonder how they would score if given the MMPI-2.  I doubt they would come up as sane.

According to Alfred Kinsey, 83% of men will have wet dreams in their lifetime.  While this is most common in teenage boys, it can happen anytime after the onset of puberty and about 60% of married men will have them.  But no.  This married, middle aged man was under sexual attack from a succubus.  Do they even know their mythology about succubi?  I think not.  The mythology came about because no one understood the science of puberty or wet dreams.  We understand why they happen now.  Unless of course, we're a whacked out expert on one of these shows.

As far as sleep paralysis goes, I know it's hard for people who suffer from it to accept that what is happening isn't real.  What they need is a sleep clinic, not some crackpot who is going to tell them that they're under demonic attack.  That does nothing to help the person and is not going to stop the problem.  To announce someone is under demonic attack so flippantly, without looking for a medical reason first is just irresponsible.

The entire anti-science movement bothers me.  Shows such as this one drive home the point how much we need to push science in school.  Granted, there are always going to be those who want to believe that every shadow is a demon, just as there are always going to be guys who think they're a knight of old.  Fantasy invades reality.  But we're not giving random guys with swords reality shows and setting them up as experts in medieval weaponry.  This show takes utter crackpots and insists they're experts.  

• You are the wrong religion.  If you're Catholic, you should be Baptist.  If you're Baptist, you should be Catholic.  If you're mainline Protestant, you should be SSPX.  
• Any religion or spiritual practice you don't understand or falls outside of Christianity is evil.
• If you're an atheist or agnostic, demons are going to possess you.  

That's right.  If you aren't on your knees, praying to the Abrahamic god, you are going to get possessed.  Which is why science has medical explanations for what is obviously bad juju.  (Atheists!  If they believed in the right god, they wouldn't be possessed and they wouldn't push science on you!)  We all have superstitions, whether we're willing to admit it or not.  However, to be so superstitious that you are suspicious of anyone who doesn't share your faith, that is on the edge of paranoia and once again, I want to see how you score on the MMPI-2.

• Priests can just do exorcisms for the camera without getting permission from the Bishop.

Or not, after I actually looked up the priests on this show.  There are two priests I have seen on this show.  One is Roman Catholic and he uses prayers of deliverance, which can be said by anyone, including the laity.  The priest doing the exorcisms calls himself an Independent Catholic and appears to have a wife.  So he is definitely in schism in more ways than one.  (As a matter of fact, unless his ordination was done by a Bishop in good standing with the Vatican, it is invalid.)  He seems to be under the impression that all ghosts are demons and need to be exorcised, which tends to be a very fundamentalist point of view.  I have to say, if I was a ghost and he showed up and was telling me I was a dark force and I needed to be banished, I would offer resistance.  Which of course, would make everyone think my ghost was a demon.  Which might explain why once these camera crews are gone, months later some families have claimed things got worse, instead of better.  

• There is no such thing as a Jewish ghost, Muslim ghost, etc.

I say this because with the exception of one haunting, where they brought in a shaman to deal with a Native American ghost, all these ghosts are susceptible to Christian prayer.  So before you say, "that is because Jesus is the one true god," then why did they need a medicine man to deal with a Native American ghost?  One of the first things settlers did was work on converting the Native Americans.  So surely the Christian prayers would have worked.  No?  Going by this logic, if a ghost in life is outside of the Christian belief system, then Christian prayer isn't going to do a thing.

• Flickering lights don't mean a bad bulb or wiring if they continue to flicker.  Flickering more than once means evil forces.
• Never get the wiring checked if there's a high EMF reading.  It is always a ghost.  That fire that started in the wiring?  Ghosts.

If anyone on this show was responsible, the first thing they would do for flickering lights or high EMF readings is tell the family to call an electrician to check things out, before claiming a place is haunted.  While telling them they're haunted might be the gist of the show, it's also leaving these people to risk dying in their sleep as the place burns to the ground from faulty wiring.  

• Beetlejuice was 2/3 documentary.

Honestly, it was.  Watch that movie and then watch these shows and tell me I'm wrong.

• Tiny volunteer paranormal groups manage to be able to film themselves in a room from every angle and manage to zoom in at just the right time.

"We got this video from thus and so paranormal society..."  Yeah, I believe every little group can afford $100K worth of camera equipment and has a professional camera crew working with them, who can zoom in on the right person in an instant.  If that is the case, the cameramen should be working as psychics.  Not everyone in your viewing audience is stupid or irrational.  We notice bullshit when we see it and when something like that is claimed to be amateur video, we call bullshit.   Also, if the show isn't being faked, how do the cameramen know to zoom in at the exact right moment, every single time?

• Satellite mothers are really annoying and think everything is out to kill their children.

This is just a personal observation.  No matter what you want to call them, be it satellite or helicopter mothers, they are annoying, narcissistic imbeciles that we all want to see shut the hell up and let their children have their own damned personalities and interests.

• "We use scientific methods" means having the latest gadgets, not anything else related to science.

If they were using scientific methods, they wouldn't decide it was a haunting before they even got there.  They would want the wiring checked if something was reading too high on the EMF meter.  They would use some form of rationality, before deciding animals acting like animals are proving a paranormal entity is afoot.  They would have at least a modicum of common sense.  Nope.  Their scientific methods are to use gadgets and that is it.

• Confirmation bias runs rampant.

 Depending on your belief system, all ghosts are demons, or there are friendly ghosts and bad ghosts, etc.  So the show is a bit of a hodge-podge of how to handle things.  One week, you need a priest.  The next week, you need a shaman.  The week after that, you need a new age channeler.  However, whatever happens to be the belief system of the week, that is what will get rid of all ghosts.   We see methods ranging from exorcism to, oh, let's just burn a little sage to get rid of what our dime store demonologist claims is a demon.

Oh yes, the dime store demonologist.  He is introduced as being world famous in every episode where they bring him in for the cameras.  I had never heard of him before watching this show and it is nigh impossible to find his credentials through a Google search.  All I get are links to his fame and a few interviews that tell me nothing.  I want to know where he studied.  What makes him an expert.  From what I've seen, he's read a bit of Montague Summers, which is dogmatic, dated tripe.  (In my opinion, of course.)  He also comes off as a bit sleazy and definitely creepy.  Oh, he studied with the Warrens, who spent their time running around with that SSPX priest, who had been excommunicated by the Vatican?  That would explain a few of his odd ideas.  I have never been a fan of the Warrens.  They were fakes in the 70s when they insisted that house on Long Island was haunted and they tried to ruin the careers of anyone who told them sure, they would help investigate, but at the slightest sign of trickery, they were going to expose them as fakes.  If they were ever genuine, they wouldn't have had to worry about being exposed, as there would have been nothing to expose.  So, in my opinion, anything or anyone having to do with them needs to be treated with skepticism.

Getting back to confirmation bias, we use it from time to time.  It validates our beliefs, as we look for evidence that backs up our beliefs and we ignore anything to the contrary.  This show is nothing but confirmation bias.  As I mentioned earlier, they decided houses were haunted and what kind of entity it was before they even got there.  When they did get there, it wasn't let's see if we're right, but it was, let's prove we're right.  That is far removed from scientific method.  It is looking for what confirms what you want to believe and ignoring anything to the contrary.

Finally, I think my favorite line from the entire series was, "we went outside and the dogs started barking."

Really?  Dogs who live in a pen outside started barking at a bunch of strangers on the property they feel they need to protect?  Do these supposed experts have any experience around dogs at all?  If they knew anything about dogs, they would know that outside dogs especially will bark at the wind blowing the wrong way.  But, they wanted to believe it was a sign of a haunting, so noisy dogs became the sign of a haunting.

It is that sort of thing that really annoys me, because, Animal Planet.  A channel that is supposed to be educational.  Once again, somewhere up the chain of command, you would think someone who works there would have a dog and be able to correct this.  All in all, this was just a way to hop on the paranormal bandwagon.  It was not a good idea at all.

The Thaw is Very Flawed

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